We quite often get asked about the timing of invitations and rsvps for weddings, so I thought I’d answer a couple of the most common questions here.

When should we send out our wedding invitations?

Traditionally wedding invitations are sent out 6-8 weeks prior to your wedding. Although some brides and grooms elect to send them out earlier – particularly if they are having a destination wedding or if a lot of their guests will be traveling to attend. Another instance where more time is allowed, is for weddings falling in January, February, and early March, where it is not uncommon to send out the invitations in late November or early December in order to avoid the Christmas mail and holiday season where people are likely to be away.

If you would like to give your guests a lot of notice of your wedding date, Save the Date cards are also popular, this gives the guest notice of when your wedding is, asks them to ‘save the date’ and let’s them know to expect a formal invitation at a later date. These are sent out anywhere from 6-12 months in advance depending on the extent of notice your guests are likely to require.

How much time should I give my guests to RSVP?

This really depends on your wedding vendors and your organisational plans as to what date you will require final numbers by. Some reception venues require final numbers 2 weeks prior to the wedding, whilst some vendors require more. If you are ordering personalised place cards from Alannah Rose for example, we suggest setting your RSVP date about 4-5 weeks prior to the wedding. This then gives you time to gather your final list of names together to send to us for printing, whilst still allowing time for your cards to be delivered before the wedding day!

I often get asked what sort of dress code a couple should put on their wedding invitations . This of course really comes down to the style of the event that is planned, so if you are pondering this question, there are a few questions you should ask yourself.

What style of event are we planning? Very formal and elegant? Stylish and simple? Relaxed and celebratory?

Where is the event being held? Does this dictate the type of attire required?

What is the timing of the event? Is it indoors or outdoors? What time of day is it being held?

For those looking for a bit more clarification, I’ve listed some of the more popular dress codes and what they generally mean below.

White Tie

This is reserved for ultra formal occasions. For men , a full black tuxedo coat with tails, a white pique shirt, white vest and white bow tie and black trousers and black formal shoes are appropriate. For women, a full length gown and glamorous hair and make up is essential. This is the look you’d have if you were going to the Oscars!

above: Collete Dinnigan embroidered French spot tulle strapless gown with scalloped beading – for a very special occasion!

Black Tie

This is perhaps the most popular of the formal dress codes we see and is usually used if the wedding is to be an evening affair (from 4.30pm onwards). For men , a black tuxedo or dinner suit worn with a white pique shirt and black bow tie, black trousers and black shoes and socks. For women , a glamorous formal evening gown or cocktail dress (long or short) is appropriate.

Formal

This suggests that the event is a formal affair, but perhaps not as strict on dress code as Black Tie.

For the men , a dark formal suit, white shirt and tie. For the women, a stylish evening or cocktail gown.

Lounge Suit

This is one of the most popular dress codes we have our couples using on their invitations. It suggests the wedding is a stylish event, although less formal than the above options. It is suitable for weddings held at any time of the day or evening. For men , a dark business suit, shirt and matching tie is appropriate. For the women , a dress, smart suit or cocktail dress is suitable.

Above: Pretty dress form Asos

Cocktail

This is usually used for an evening wedding. For the men a dark suit and tie is appropriate. For women a short elegant cocktail dress.

Above: Gorgeous Oasis cocktail gown from Asos

Smart Casual

Don’t be fooled by the word ‘casual’ in the heading. Jeans are not appropriate at this wedding! For men , a suit and shirt, dark or light depending on the time of day, alternatively a pair of tailored pants and jacket is also suitable. A tie is optional for this occasion. For the women , a pretty dress, cocktail or other, a dressy skirt and top, or smart tailored pants and stylish top.

Casual

For a more relaxed affair, men and women would dress as if going to a nice restaurant. For men a nice pair of pants and shirt. For women a skirt, dress or pants are also appropriate. No jeans here either.